How can you tell someone is a pathological liar?
You can tell that someone is a pathological liar if you catch them in lies often. If you consistently think that someone is lying, this could mean they are a pathological liar.
Pathological liars - or "mythomaniacs" - are people who engage in objectively puposeless story telling behavior. The stories they tell are not the products of delusions and serve no external purpose other than to inflate the value of the teller in the eyes of the listener. The actual existence of mythomania separate from other diagnoses as a symptom set is a controversial topic in the mental health field. The symptom set for Mythomania is strictly limited: 1) The subject is not delusional and the stories they tell are at least technically plausible. If the subject is actually delusional, a diagnosis of a condition with psychotic features is more appropriate. 2) The tendency to construct such stories is non-transient, and long lasting. The story telling behavior is an actual personality trail. 3) The tendency is clearly non-situational and the subjects motives are objectively internal. The stories are not lies told from fear, or to cover a long pattern of misconduct (spousal abusers and confidence tricksters for instance are not mythomaniacs although they often construct elaborate webs of lies for years to cover their abuse or trick their victims. Such lies are situational and objectively external. The abuser is attempting to evade punishment). 4) The stories tend to present the teller in an extremely positive light, but otherwise provide no material benefit to the teller. The story may suggest that the teller is intensely brave, wealthy or may know many famous people, but the teller derives no benefit from fostering this belief, other than people believing the story. The term is often misused to refer to those suffering from histrionic personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder. The following comments basically reflect a pathological liar who has the characteristics of histrionic personality disorder. Some Characteristics : . Exaggerates things that are ridiculous. . One-upping. Whatever you do, this person can do it better. You will never top them in their own mind, because they have a concerted need to be better than everyone else. This also applies to being right. If you try to confront an individual like this, no matter how lovingly and well-intentioned you might be - this will probably not be effective. It's threatening their fantasy of themselves, so they would rather argue with you and bring out the sharp knives than admit that there's anything wrong with them. . They "construct" a reality around themselves. They don't value the truth, especially if they don't see it as hurting anyone. If you call them on a lie and they are backed into a corner, they will act very defensively and say ugly things (most likely but depends on personality), but they may eventually start to act like, "Well, what's the difference? You're making a big deal out of nothing!" (again, to refocus the conversation to your wrongdoing instead of theirs). . Because these people don't value honesty, a lot of times they will not value loyalty. So watch what you tell them. They will not only tell others, but they will embellish to make you look worse. Their loyalty is fleeting, and because they are insecure people, they will find solace in confiding to whomever is in their favor at the moment. . They may be somewhat of a hypochondriac. This can come in especially useful when caught in a lie, for example, they can claim that they have been sick, or that there's some mysteriously "illness" that has them all stressed out. It's another excuse tool for their behavior. . Obviously, they will contradict what they say. This will become very clear over time. They usually aren't smart enough to keep track of so many lies (who would be?). Another Wiki s contributor adds: . They lie about even the smallest things. For example, saying "I brushed my teeth today," when they didn't. . They add exaggerations to every sentence. . They change their story all the time. . They act very defensively when you question their statements. . They believe what they say is true, when everyone else knows it isn't. An alternate 'checklist': . Lies when it is very easy to tell the truth. . Lies to get sympathy, to look better, to save their butt, etc. . Fools people at first but once they get to know him, no one believes anything they ever say. . May have a personality disorder. . Extremely manipulative. . Has been caught in lies repeatedly. . Never fesses up to the lies. . Is a legend in their own mind. More opinions and input from Wiki s contributors: . I have found a few differences in pathological liar and a "slime ball" liar. Pathological liars cannot tell that they are lying; they actually believe the lie as soon as it comes out of their mouth. They lie about unimportant things that don't really matter to anyone. This can be caused by mental defect but isn't always. Slime-ball liars lie about things that make them look better or embellish to get attention. They also lie to keep their butts out of trouble and to get what they want. . Here are things to ask yourself: How could this many things happen to one person? Would believe these stories if someone else told you? Think back to the beginning: you had red flags and alarms going off in you head. Learn to trust your instincts. . It is very hard to tell when one is a pathological liar. Some people just are liars and lie to lie because they can and they don't care about getting caught and aware that you know they have lied. These people care not about lying, it's no big deal. It's like "ok, so what? I lied". The pathological liar on the other hand, IS aware that they are lying BUT will go to extremes to make you believe that they are truthful. They appear to believe their own lies BUT in truth, they know their lies are just that, lies. But because their efforts are constantly backing up their lies, it appears to us that they actually believe their lies, when we eventually do find out about them and then we tend to feel sorry for these people. Then they have an excuse, "I am sick, I don't know why I lie, I believed what I was saying etc." The only truth was the fact that they don't know why they lie. Other than that it's crap. It is true that most of them have an extremely low sense of self worth and are continuously trying to make themselves feel better about THEMSELVES and this is one reason they lie. It is about them but the lies are not always set up with the purpose to hurt some one else; it's that these people feel so low about themselves they need to create ANYTHING different from the ugly reality they feel about themselves so they lie about even the most tiniest little thing. The people closest to them get sucked into these lies which sometimes start as something very trivial and then turn into something that can turn everyone involved worlds upside down and inside out. . Unmasking the pathological liar is an easier task when the pathological liar is no more than a casual acquaintence to the "un-masker." Close relationships provide camouflage for the pathological liar, and intimacy provides a heavily-fortressed breeding ground. . Other indicators: 1) Rage attacks after they realize you're questioning their lies. 2) Distraction techniques, e.g. hanging up the phone when you catch them in lie, playing word games, or even just running out of the room. After using the distraction technique, or rage attack, or sometimes both, they will pretend that nothing ever happened. They re-write history, so it never did happen in their minds. Normal people do it too, but these people take it to the extreme. . From "Go Ask Alice": Lies are unplanned and impulsive. Behavior is repeated over a long period of time. Lies don't seem to exist for any external reason. Behavior may not always be a conscious act. Lies are admitted, changed, and/or adapted if a false story is challenged. . From Andrea Broadbent "The Truth about Truman": To begin, the definition of pathological actually means abnormal or grossly atypical. Therefore, a pathological liar prevaricates more frequently than the average person or tells more abnormal lies. In most cases, pathological liars tell lies that are "unplanned and impulsive" (Hausman). These lies are usually very emotional stories that tend to serve no purpose except to impress people (Ford 133). As of now, psychiatrists are unsure whether or not pathological liars are fully capable of realizing if and when they are lying, so detecting whether or not a person is a pathological liar is a very difficult task (Hausman). By looking at the list of conditions commonly connected with people considered to be pathological liars, psychiatrists are better able to determine whether or not a person might actually have the disorder. Some main qualities linked with pathological liars include dysfunctional family origin, family lying patterns, anomalies of sexual life, frequent substance abuse, and a great capacity for language. . From Raymond Lloyd Richmond, Ph.D. "Psychological Honesty": Even a pathological liar carries deep in his heart a desire for goodness and honesty and yet, because of painful emotional wounds, believes that the world never has, and never will, recognize his pain. And so, to hide that pain from himself, he uses all the lies he can concoct to hurl at the world as he runs in fear from his own goodness. . For me, the first indication has been that I hear them tell different things to different people and they can't all be right, because they directly contradict each other! And I am able to prove it. If you can prove over and over again that things someone is telling you are outright false, then you have a pathological liar on your hands. . With the Internet, it is now easier than ever to "fact-check" even the most mundane things. I think pathological liars often lose track of all of the lies they tell different people and it will eventually catch up with them.
Don't fall into the trap of trying to label yourself or someone else and treating mental health issues like physical disease. If you lie and that behavior is pathological (causes problems in your life or in the lives of those you care for) you need to address that issue. If someone has been taught by their family to lie from childhood on, it is very likely that they will grow up to be a "pathological liar" and a "compulsive liar" because they simply don't value truth and don't get the connecton between their lies and problems they create. A compulsive liar is probably also "pathological". It's hard to imagine a complusive liar that wouldn't cause problems for themselves or someone else. The distinction isn't clear and neither term has a clear, distinct diagnosis. If you suspect you are one, then you're most likely not. Compulsive, may be a more apt description for you. A 'pathological liar' tends to believe his or her lies; lies to make himself look better or superior, or to draw attention to himself. It's got a lot to do with self-esteem, I believe. Often narcissists are 'pathological liars.' A compulsive liar just feels 'compelled' to lie. Just like a compulsive eater, can't control their eating habits. It's still a disorder and can cause you no end of trouble. But therapy or even just a support group can help. If you recognize that your behavior is not normal, then you are already on the right track. I just ended an 8 yr relationship with someone who is a pathological liar . From the beginning , he had cheated on his wife, and of course it was all her fault. He had married her only because it was the thing to do at the time. This was the beginning of the lies, I was kept away from his family , because I was the one who he left his wife for. It was lies about why I could not see his children , or come over when he had the kids. Working late , all the time , or constantly working on the house, He never could complete a project without it taking forever, because he lied about actually doing it. I found out , when his fiancee called me, his girlfriend of 8 yrs and asked who I was. She had been with him a year and a half. No wonder he was always busy or working late, or he also said his daughter needed therapy, she was deeply disturbed, I can imagine. When he got caught that day, he asked me how we could do this to him. I honestly think he believed all the lies he had told both of us. His fiancee called me later that night and said she had dumped him. I told her she could have him, now i know why my friends, family and co workers all thought he was a liar. He did not want to get to know any of them. I believe she is still with him , because his lies are so convincing , I,m sure she will find out in the end , as I and his wife did , I feel sorry for her. But I know he is not going to change or get the help he needs, because he believes what he is saying is true. My brother lies about the silliest things-constantly. He usually does it so as to not hurt someones feelings. Even tho if he told the truth, he would save himself sooo much trouble. He really means well. So now that I have a friend that constantly lies to me about everything under the sun, I try to keep a little patience-Hoping she is the same as my brother. Trying to not hurt my feelings or embarrass herself. I now read between the lines of what anyone tells me. I expect everyone to be like him and to an extent-most people do lie-a lot, for no reason. It's just a part of their life. I try so hard not to lie seeing it all the time that I have been told that I am hurtfully truthful. I don't know which is better. . . to lie or not to lie. You wont be a pathological liar for that matter. But if you are talking about someone else, then yeah sure. People tend to lie a lot and little do they realize. But sometimes they DO realize and DO know that they are lying, you will hear them say "My lies don't harm anyone, really" or something to tht effect. While a liar's lies may not harm 'anyone' they do no good either, and it hurts to know the truth later on simply because it had been delayed for NO good reason in the victim's mind.
Do Pathological Liars Admit They Lie? Chronic liars are most commonly found among those who have Antisocial Personality Disorder, although some liars also suffer from factitious conditions like Munchhausen's Disorder or Munchhausen's by Proxy and of course, there are disorders that by their nature promote lying -- such as substance abusers who have to lie to spouses or employers in order to support their habit. Narcissists are also fond of lying. The most serious of the chronic liars are the psychopaths, who form the most severe 10% (roughly) of those with Antisocial Personality Disorder and yes, they will happily acknowledge that they lie, in some circumstances. They will rarely acknowledge a lie if doing so might cause them discomfort -- for example, if they lie to police about not having committed some crime, they will generally not back down from this position and they will often not back away from a face-saving or grandiose lie. Those liars who are psychopaths or sociopaths are above all charming, glib and usually to some extent flirtatious. If admitting a lie or two is in the interest of holding your attention, they're happy to do so. Other than an accurate (and controversial) diagnosis of actual mythomania (fantastic story telling as a fixed, non-situational, objectively internal character trait), only delusions can cause an individual to tell a falsehood that they believe to be true. By definition, delusions are *fixed* false beliefs, that do not comport with any religious or cultural tradition, and they do not change when someone points out their falsity. They often don't even change with heavy medication. So if someone is telling you, "I didn't realize I just told a lie; I'm a pathological liar," excuse yourself politely, and go make a new friend. There is not going to be a happy ending. About Pathological liars knowing whether they lie or not, it's actually yes and no. He doesn't know that he has lied until AFTER he has lied (sometimes). He sometimes does not realise he has lied until someone has brought it to his attention. When he finally realises he has lied (on his own), he will NOT admit it, because there is no explanation and he feels somewhat embarrassed. When caught he will sometimes deny it simply because he does not want people to view him as a liar (from fear and shame). Finally, sometimes he will admit it in certain situations. It's not their conscious mind at work, but rather their self-centred, defensive, insecure, low self esteem subconscious. Pathological liars know themselves they are lying sometimes and feel the pain. Othertimes, they don't know ,so their relatives and friends get hurt. So, pathological liars do not always admit they are liars,especially when they are hurting others and protecting themselves. In fact, common liar also do not admit they are lying always. The difference between normal liars and pathological liars are the pain caused by and frequency of lying. Think of our own inner state when our liars are exposed. We will feel awkward but not panic. We would not be hurt so deep, but they will change their other normal mind into an abnormal state and do something that will really hurt other people's feelings. They do not admit they are liars, they go on play the role they thought they are telling the truth. When they are alone, they will think about their suffering and weep in a corner. They can feel the pain double of ours.
To me, the word "cure" implies an illness that can be treated, and so we could call it "cured." I don't know what the shrinks would say, but in my experience, this is primarily a character issue. People who lie even when there's no reason to, when there is nothing to protect or gain, are just flat deficient in character. They lie because they are liars, and choose to be. The psychologists desk reference, or whatever they currently call the list of actual mental disorders, keeps growing. Eventually the sum total of human behavior will be a form of mental illness at this rate. Chronic liars, in my experience, are also manipulators, so I guess there is a root reason for their lying. Whatever the cause of it is, and whatever the shrinks might say about it, in my experience this behavior is usually a lifetime thing. Answer Compulsive liars do have a problem and it usually stems from low self esteem. They feel they are not up to par with their peers so often lie or embellish on events in their lives to make themselves look more important. I agree with the other poster on much of what they said and this is certainly something for the psychology books. I believe if the person knows they are a compulsive liar (many seldom can admit this to themselves) and they work with a good psychologist there is a possibility of learning not to lie. We all tell "little white lies" at different times in our lives, but most of us don't lie to hurt others. If the compulsive liar does not seek treatment or doesn't want it, then it's best to move on because you'll only get hurt. Trust is a large issue in relationships whether it's loyalty to family, friends or relationships with a partner. Marcy sometimes compulsive liars do have low self esteem proublems but that is not always the case. sometimes compulsive liars lie because of a tramatic event that has occured in their past such as childhood abuse. if a person does realise that they are a compulsive liar it is good to fin help as soon as possibe because they will have a better chance of overcomming the disease. when someone is a compulsive liar they do NOT lie by choice. it can be caused by a defect when the child is developing in the mothers womb. they can develop up to 20% to much white brain matter witch can cause some mental illnesses such as compulsive lieing. but don't confuse compalsive lieing with pathological lieing. they are verry different and treated in several different ways. basicly, a pathological liar or compalsive liar doesent lie by choice, its not something they can control. although on rare occations it has been proven to form out of habit that starts at a very young often because the child was not taught the consiquences of lieing or a parent displaied theese type of behaviors.
Answer . 1) You thank God that you were set free from this person.\n. \n2) You join an online support group for people who have gone through what you've gone through (check out the Narcissism survivor's group on MSN.com)\n. \n3) Read as much as you can on the subject (if your local library doesn't have any books on the subject, ask them to have books reserved from other branches. Read as much as you can and the experiences and advice from others will help you to heal.\n. \nI promise!. Answer . You avoid the leech completely.
Pathological liars A pathological liar is someone who consistently lies (about anything- from the most mundane subject to detailed stories). They are very insecure people who lie to present themselves better than they really are. For Ex: If you sold 20 chocolate bars, you say you sold 25, if you sold 25 you say you sold 30, they are never good enough, it can always be BETTER Therefore you need the lies to show a better image of yourself. A pathological liar often believes the lies he is telling, he manages to convince himself they are true, in comparison to a compulsive liar who will lie for any reason, and knows they are lies but apparently can't stop himself from doing so. Why the lie is more difficult, a pathological liar may not know he lies, he may believe himself to be as honest and trustworthy as anyone else. But a liar in general lies to make himself sound better and to avoid confrontation, and disappointing people. Why it happens: They can't help themselves. sometimes they say something before they think. then they don't want to tell you it was incorrect even when they realize they lied because they don't want you to think of them as a bad person. Some of them actually believe their own lies until someone can show them proof that they are wrong. (this is how some people pass the lie detector test.) The sad truth is that most of them lie to build themselves up because they feel worthless. When they lie to you and you find out they lied, don't get mad. Sit down with them and tell them you know, tell them that you are still their friend no matter what, and let them know they are worth something to you. Make sure to tell them that it hurts your feelings when they lie and that it makes you feel like they think you are not worth the truth. This may make them realize that they don't want to make you feel the same bad way that they feel. Just don't let them get away with lying to you because they will think that there is nothing wrong with lying to you. (if this is a boyfriend or girlfriend, break it off now before you are too attached to do so. tell them you still want to be their friend, but you can't be with someone you can not trust. Without trust, there simply is no relationship.) You are worth the truth, and they need to realize that. If after you have reminded them of this fact more than 5 times they still lie, then they have proven to you that they don't care enough about you to stop lying to you. At that point they should be demoted from friend to acquaintance.
Answer . If a pathological liar wants help, I mean really wants help. then yes there is help, But often they begin to believe their own lies so much. that they don't even relize that they are lieing, and if they don't relize that they are lieing. then they cannot relize they need help.
Answer . "No, people who lie do it on purpose, and sometimes they lie for so many years when they are telling a story that is not true they may think it is because lying has become such a part of life they can't tell they are doing it anymore. The only cure is the person changing the bad habit.". That's rather inaccurate.. The term pathological lying essentially translates to uncontrollable lying. This can mean that a person who is suspected of pathological lying is considered to have a disease, and therefore cannot control the lying. However, psychologists and psychiatrists fail to account for a specific definition of pathological lying as a disease. It can be symptomatic of other conditions, like antisocial personality disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) or attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). It is not always present in these conditions, so a clear treatment set for pathological lying has not been defined.. Many people who exhibit pathological lying also clearly exhibit symptoms of other treatable conditions. Conditions like ADHD and OCD are treatable through medication, though different ones. This makes accurately diagnosing underlying conditions important. The last thing one would want to give a person with OCD is a stimulant like Ritalin, which would likely exacerbate their disorder.. Personality disorders that contribute to pathological lying may also respond to a combined treatment of psychiatric medication and cognitive behavioral therapy. The goal with pathological lying must in the end be to treat any evidence of illness or conditions that may influence the lying. This may include medications and the use of behavioral therapy to help the person overcome compulsive lying.
Answer . \nIf you have to ask you already know do yourself a favor and move on trust is a must
whats the difference.? once they give you two lies. dump him .don't let him get to 3. I was with a pathological liar and a scum bag. they never stop lying . I wasted my life for 6 years.
Answer . \nAlmost everyone lies occasionally. Usually for a reason: too keep from hurting someone's feeling, to stay out of trouble, to keep from being embarassed or the like. Most people only lie when they feel they neeed to, and usually feel some sort of guilt or regret about it.\n. \nPathological liars lie for any, or no particular, reason. They invent untrue stories about themselves when there is no need to do so. They answer questions with any story that pops to mind. They may tell so many stories that they even begin to believe their own lies. They lie as a way of life, rather than as a last resort.. Answer . A liar is someone who chooses for one reason or another not to tell the truth. A pathological liar has been diagnosed with a psychological disorder marked by an inability to tell the truth even when he wants to. There are many other symptoms and etiologies; you can search the term on Google and find useful information.
Answer . \nAvoid the person, warn your friends that they should be careful of believing the person, do not try to show the person where they have lied, just stay away from them.
Answer . I would have to say that you just have to be around them long enough. Check out what they say to you. Ask about what they said earlier. Eventually they will start tripping themselves up. They will eventually forget what they told to whom. Hope this helps you some.
Is it because you have bipolar disorder that your fiancee doesn't believe you when you tell him that you think he is pathological liar?
I don't think it matters whether he believes you or not, nor does it matter if he believes you. The fact is that you are battling a very debilitating condition in bipolar disorder, and really the last thing you need around you is someone YOU BELIEVE is a pathological liar. Truth to you is how you perceive it, and you might have good reason for believing he is lying about something, or a lot of things. Did you ever hear the expression that just because you are paranoid doesn't mean they aren't out to get you? It means that if you believe he is doing something around you that he needs to lie about, repeatedly and methodically, it's time for either a new guy, or no guy at all while you get your disease under control. THere are lots of nice guys who don't lie out there. You need one of those, but not until you are well again, or at least have it under control.
What are the best way of telling someone that he is a pathological liar and he can really believe it and go for help?
This isn't easy and the person may know and just be taking advantage of you?Traditionally sit down and talk to them about it.I think perhaps if you kept a diary of their lies and showed it to them.However they may not be a pathological liar especially if your the only one he's lying too?If your completley positive that they're suffering from this condition you can phone their dr and discuss your concerns. The dr can't discuss his medical information with you but he can listen to your concerns and make him an appointment raise the issue with him and refer him to a psychiatrist. x
How can you expose someone who presents themselves as an angel, yet has a very dark, murky interior that very few would ever see. Who presents a faultless image of themselves, in their obsessive desire to win over people and gather friends like trophies. This person has been bad-mouthing a friend of mine to people in a regional community in Victoria Australia for the last nine years. It is about ostracizing my friend from the community. Every time he starts to become friendly with people in the community a new wave of bad mouthing begins. He has been convicted by a community that hasn't even given him the right of reply. He has been convicted without been given the base rights that even harden criminals get through our legal system. This is not all my friend has to put up with, theirs the constant lying, manipulating and seeming lack of empathy. Please, can anybody offer some respite from this horrible ordeal. You need to check out stalking sites and look under gang mobbing and bullying read all that you can and let people be aware that this person is doing just this thing. Alot of times people do not even realize that is what this person wants this other person to be miserable and forced to move. I had this happen to me. awareness open eyes that may be unintentally closed.
On a personal level - avoid their company. If avoiding them does not work then exposing them each time they lie to you will often upset them and they will soon go away...
Be careful and do some background research on this person because people who lie are hiding something from you and you need to know what it is they are trying to hide. Lying could be a potential symptom of a serious problem...this could be anything from drug use, eating disorders or many other forms of addictions or detrimental behaviors. The person lying is protecting themselves from the consequences of the actions they are lying about. Do yourself a huge favor and find out.
Pathological liars lies on a regular basis and is unable to control their lying despite of foreseeing inevitable negative consequences or ultimate disclosure of the lie. .
you dont give him/her any room in your life, know there is no physiological remedy remember the human is body(flesh), mind(will) and spirit(soul), all you can really do is pray that jesus cures his/her spirit so that the mind will hear the voice of the holy spirit convicting them when they bear false witness.
Pathological liar is hard to noticed, it often exaggerate issues. Person may not be lying deliberately. He or she would think and believe in their lies completely. Their daily life often includes such far fetched sentences about many things. Pathological liar often lie in situations whenever they find it easy to do so.
Answer . It would be in there bodd they have been lieing there hole life its a disease
Pathological lying is one of the hallmark characteristics of a narcissist. They lie out of their need to manipulate and control. They must lie in order to create their false "reality" about themselves that they project out to the world. They lie to bolster their grandiosity and inflate their accomplishments. Lying is the most common complaint of people who have a narcissist in their life. Following are some comments from contributors: Opinion Lying compulsively is not a disease or even an abnormality, which are the definitions of pathological in the dictionary. Lying is a habit of behaviour. If this habit has been advantageous in the past it will be repeated. After being repeated many times it will become the standard and default response. This is why it is attractive and charming people become narcissistic. Other people are usually less successful with lies as children and so never form the habit. Habits can be changed, lying is not addictive such as smoking and so to say that this behaviour can't change is the wrong conclusion. That said it will usually take some real understanding to bring a person with NPD to a place of trust in their family to be able to drop the lies and see that other behaviour is more rewarding. Accountability is the key, but failure to meet obligations should been dealt with justly. Threatening to abandon and isolate a person because they have simply never been taught how to meet these standards is unjust. A child who has never been taught with patience to tell the truth will remain a liar until someone who the narcissist looks up to and respects takes on this duty. Kim Cooper author of "Back from the Looking Glass" Living with the personality disorder that causes abuse Opinion Yes. They promise you the world then once they see your hopes up they tear the rug out from under. And if that isnt bad enough then they proceed to deny what they did and/or said and make you feel like the crazy one. The narcissist invents and then projects to others a FALSE Self. So, his entire existence is founded on an all-pervasive lie. The narcissist does his damnedest to avoid intimacy. He constantly lies about every aspect of his life: his self, his history, his vocations and avocations, and his emotions. This false data guarantee his informative lead, or "advantage" in a relationship. It yields an active state of disintimisation. It casts a pall of cover up, separateness, asymmetry and mystery over the narcissist's relationships. The narcissist lies even in therapy. He obscures the truth by using "psycho-babble", or a professional lingo. It makes him feel that he "belongs", that he is a "Renaissance man". By demonstrating his control of several professional jargons he almost proves (to himself) that he is superhuman. In therapy, this has the effect of "objectifying" and emotionally detachment. Opinion Certainly. I have been in a relationship with a narcissist for 3 years. My poor soul will lie when proof is in front of his face. Opinion I think the N's perception of a lie is different from ours. A lie is not "bad" to a narcissist because it gets him what he wants. Opinion I have just ended a 5 year relationship with a narcissist and I can say this one was pathological. It is the most incredible phenomenon! For the first few years, I thought I was crazy or there was something wrong with my memory. He would re-write the very same event that we both experienced. It is my belief that he actually believed his lies, because that was the only way he could cope with life. He seemed genuinely convinced that his lies were the truth. It is mind boggling! I have changed all phone numbers and e-mail in an attempt to stay away from this man. I am in the process of moving. My advice to anyone involved with a narcissist, is to get out as fast as you can! It has been my experience that you cannot believe what this person tells you, even if they are crying and swearing to God. It is a very sad thing to watch ... but protect yourself! Opinion All the N's I have met are liars and masters at the art of deception. Just remember they always round numbers up or down to make themselves look good, or to make others look bad. They are the people at work, who say, "so-n-so is always late." Note the word "always". They don't keep accurate records and condem people without facts and evidence. Most people will make double sure before hurting someone's reputation or livelihood. Not narcissist. Usually, in Narcisstic language, "always" means "once." They actually think they can brainwash people. If they say the same thing over and over, they think you will eventually adopt it as truth. They rewrite history this way. Opinion My ex was so bad that he would look me in the eyes and tell me he loves me, and the next day I was gone. He did anything and everything to get what he wanted. Lying to me, about me, and he would come up with the most outrageous lies about me and people would believe these lies, why I don't know. He would be so incredibly arrogant while lying as well, as if he was the only one smart enough in his world to know he was lying and if he was caught in one he'd never admit it. I've noticed they live in a fantasy world of their own making and every lie that they tell only adds to it, and to them it's ok. Opinion I am in the unfortunate situation of being in love with as well as married to a narcissist. We have been married for less than a year and it has been a fairly incredible constant roller coaster of emtions, anger and confusion. I have battled with leaving but know that I do love this person and continue to pray that they will get the true help that they, themselves, have agreed to get. Others who see from a distance what is taking place are warning me to get out while I can and to heed safety measures when dealing with someone of this caliber. I am so confused because as any of you reading this will know... THEY ARE VERY convincing when they want to be. They tell you they love you and will do anything to keep you but then the very next day they are right back with their sick lies and unstable behavior. How can you ever trust or believe in this person? Opinion How can anyone who has a false front not lie? Will they lie to themselves and believe it? Yes, they are pathological liars. Thank you for this website. I was nearly destroyed by all the lies and the confusion. Lies add power to the narcissist...keeping you in the dark...to confused to run. Opinion Yes, blackmailing, back-stabbing, manipulating, deceiving and lying seem to be the core personlaity traits that I've noticed in my experience w/ a NPD individual. All become intertwined- for example they will cover up a lie w/ a maniupulation or manipulate to cover up a lie. To say they have the ethics of a roach would be a tremendous insult to all roaches. Opinion I have just come to terms with my daughter. She is now a complete Pathological Liar or has Antisocial Personality Disorder or is Narcissist. I can realize this and have to come to terms with it. I know all three titles are probably stages of the same. I think it is genetic and complusive and addictive. Opinion They are spin doctors. They live only in the present. Everything is about their image, and maintaining their image EACH MINUTE. They will make stuff up on the spot. The next day, they say the complete opposite. If everyone in the room is saying, "we like president Bush" the narcissist will take inventory and go with the majority of people. (the majority are the "winners" and they must side with the numbers/winners). The very next day, they could be in a room where most people like Hillary Clinton. Again, the narcissist will go with the status quo. It's hard to figure out where they really stand, and they don't seem to know. Their ethics are like this too. One day they have high morals, the next day they are rationalizing and going against one of their proclaimed rules. They picks what sounds best to suit their needs for the moment. Words, sentences, are just ornaments or jewelry, and they always pick out a different word-robe for the day. They also lie over the smallest detail that wasn't matter. They act like they got caught with their hand in the cookie jar, make up lies, when all you did was ask them a question. They always act like they are on trial and are always in self defense mode (this makes them sound paranoid). If you ask, "I need a pen. Have you seen the pen?" A narcissist would reply "I didn't take it." It makes communicating with them somewhat of a strain. They seem to miss the point and always on the look out for personal attacks, then already lie to cover their arse when they don't even need to. Opinion My narcissist smirks when he lies. He knows he's been detected but he thinks he's real cute. This cuteness is to sugarcoat the lie. Mine is really quite serious so when I see that grin I know I've just heard a whopper. Opinion I was married to a narcissist for 23 years and will tell you that she lied constantly. In the beginning i thought she just like to embellish and excused it, but it never changed. As she got older, it got worse because she needed to lie to protect her image. We had met in college but she refused to admit that to anyone because she thought they could infer how old she was (like they even cared). She even lied to our children about how old she was and how we met. They saw right threw it, but if they challenged her, she went into a rage unlike any i have ever seen. I have been separated from her for 4 years, but because we have shared custody of the children, the damaging lies continue. By their nature, the narcissist's are unable to clearly look into themselves and therefore will never be able to heal. For the woman who is in love with one, my advice would be to get out while you can. I loved my wife for 23 years but it made no difference. I am very thankful that i am away from her daily torture and am glad that my children are only subjected to her manipulations half of the time. Opinion Yes narcissists are pathological liars. They will lie about everything, and do anything to keep their lies alive. I know a narcissist. She was and still is to this day my best friend. She has run away from everything that she believes is unpleasant in her current life and emerges somewhere else with a new life full of lies and half truths. She has many children most of which she has put up for adoption all over the west coast, with some kind of sob story about why she is doing what she is doing. She has two children who live with her parents on the east coast that she just up and left behind one day when she decided that she didn't want to be a 24 year old mother of two, but a 19 year old college student. She has a lot of self-hate, and in order to romantize herself and her background she makes up stories. She goes online and lies to meet men, despite the fact that she told me that she was married a few months ago. I don't know if she is telling me the truth or telling me things that she thinks I will envy or find fascinating. Eventhough she is intelligent and creative, she is so caught up in her fantasy world that I am afraid that one day she will snap and will no longer be able to tell the difference between the real world and the fantasy one that she has created Opinion I lied to my soon to be ex-wife, nothing near as bad as some of the things, some of you went through. But I did lie. I lied because i thought my wife was so much better than me, and i just wanted her to think I was good enought. I just couldn't beleive that someone would like me for me. And now I've lost her,and this I except. I understand (I think) how she feels, and I agree, that I made a massive unforgivable mistake. I guess what I want to say is don't blame yourself if you are a victim of someone liying to you. You may feel like it but you are NOT a physcho magnet. And you do deserve better. I lost the greatest thing in my life, my other half. Because I hate myself. I'm getting better, I hope. At least I have relized my mistakes, and I know I have a long road ahead of me before I can hope to called healthy. And it will be a long time before I will be able to trust myself to be in another realtionship. I can't do this to another person, I've hurt a truly beautiful soul, and I wish I could fix the damage i did to my wife, I wish I could just erase the memory of me from her mind.... But I can't this is her cross to carry, and I placed it on her shoulder. Opinion Do I Lie? In short yes. Nothing new after reading this webpage. Manipulating people..Yes...Crying out for attention...Yes...Making everything more melodramatic than it is..yes... Are people confused by my stories? Yes Do I like what I do? No Am i trying to do anything to stop it? Constantly Do people like me have low self esteem ? Yes Do I always premeditate the lie ? No Is it something that I can control ? No as it happens , with a life of its own.. it just springs from some inner reach until you cant stop. If someone is reading this they are sceptical of it...but that is how it seems to me What am i doint to stop it ? Seeing a therapist. IS it helping ? I dont know.... ( this bit is honest...) What is the biggest whopper that I have told.? I have been diagnosed by cancer and am undergoing treatment and its cured and how brave I was.... Is there a common pattern? Yes like everyone else on this website...always done to make myself look good ......better...than everyone..get the attention to me....manipulate things to suit me.... I could keep going more and more.... All I see is how bad I am ...I already know that...I need help. Is this thing that makes me do this curable....should I stop trying....and at least be happy for sometime...with the lies....I need to know that there is someone who used to do this and has been able to get out of donig this.. I wish I had something physical wrong with me as tha could be fixed.....but this ...all i see is people like me hurting others and everyone saying get out of a reltionship with a Liar...But is there a place that will help me become a decent person...or maybe I should just give up now. Opinion They are extremely talented in lying, however I should not say talented. This is not something to be proud of, what has happened is they have learned from early on that they can keep getting away with it and has made them feel "talented" in yet another aspect of their life (i.e. besides being beautiful, smart, etc.). Their lies are so convincing that you will never figure it out until you are at this stage of your research on narcissism - reading forums. Always remember one thing: IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT, you just happened to be a victim of a very uncommon and unforunately - in my opinion - a well researched disorder that needs to be far more publicized to the general public. Opinion Unfortunately for the N him/herself and others, yes, they are liars. To others and also to themselves. Even as a teenager I felt that my father was somehow 'living a lie', had such an inpenetrable facade to the outside world, a facade to protect himself from further emotional pain. I am 50 yrs old, in 2006, and when my mother died when I was 16 years old asked my father how she died. He replied that he didn't know. He has never ever mentioned her again. Not once - as if she'd never existed! A few years ago I asked him why he told me that he didn't know how/why my mother had died. He replied that he thought that "it was not important to you". He became so outraged and affronted when I tried to challenge him about this and while wildly flailing his arms with a deep red face and booming voice shouted "I never lie!" He feins ignorance about certain events, denies saying (critical/belittling) things to me or invents responses on the spot which are plainly false and expects me to believe him. However, he would never admit such things. Opinion My experience is that they lie without thought, morning noon and night. They lie for no reason and lie really really fast when under the gun, busted and about to be unveiled. Still.... they don't put much thought into the lies. When you start asking questions about the hasty cover lies.... they begin backpeddling and saying they never said that. You may even question whether you heard it or not. They formulate better lies then....and may recruit co workers or friends to swear for them. They may also spice them up with accusations that you are disrespectful and unappreciative. They've been feeding all their friends and family versions of you and themselves so don't be too shocked when people you go to for help, tell you that you and some made up idiot habit of yours is the "real problem." Continue to expect it when, in the face of facts.... they begin telling you how sorry N feels and you should consider giving the relationship another chance, at least for the children's sake.
Someone who is a pathological liar will like to everyone. They willnot stop lying without extensive forms of therapy.
The best way to tell if someone is a pathological liar, is to catchthem in their lies. If you cant determine that they are a liar,it's best not to trust them until they prove otherwise, to keepyourself from getting hurt.
You can tell when someone is a complusive liar when that person always changes up stories about something that happend to her/him and also when they tend to exagerate
Pathological liars are those who tell lies at every givenopportunity and it is a way of life for them. As such, pathologicalliars never tell the truth because they are incapable of doing so.
The definition of a pathological liar is a person who is compelled to lie and deceive regardless of the benefits or costs to that person for doing so. For instance, a pathological liar may lie and say he only has a pencil when he also has several ink pens that he could loan to another person. There is no gain in lying this way - the liar has no benefit from the deception - and there is the potential for significant social harm - the person being lied to may feel rejected or distrusted, causing him/her to socially isolate the liar. However, a person is not considered a pathological liar in several situations. First, a person may lie continuously and thoroughly to protect himself or someone else; an example of this would be denying a child from an adulterous relationship for years. Second, a person may lie routinely in social functions, such as by responding "I'm doing good" in response to typical social greetings even though the person may be facing a diagnosis of cancer and be worried about having his house foreclosed upon. This is an accepted statement in normal small-talk and light social conversation in the United States, and some people don't regard this as lying at all. Third, a person may verbally state a lie, but give sufficient non-verbal communication to reasonably inform another person that the words are not true. An example of this would be someone stating "I love having to work 12 hours on Sunday" while at the same time using a low, growling tone of voice and narrowing the eyes and drawing the eyebrows down. This would be more likely seen as irony or sarcasm rather than lying. . It is a condition that usually starts in childhood. Children often tell lies to avoid getting into trouble and as they get older, they begin to tell other lies .In HS, it begins to get worse as they cut classes and when caught by the parents and question the teenager about their supposed cutting of classes, will blame the school, saying it was a mistake. They may run up a large bill or credit card bill as an example, have the bill sent to a friend to avoid their boyfriend or spouse from finding out. It soon becomes a circle of lies to the point, they will deny any situation when caught lying about it. For the most part, they don't even realize when they are telling lies because they have been telling lies since childhood. It's very complicated and best answered by a Psychiatrist or Mental Health Advisor who work with Pathological liars. It is a sad situation as it drives a hole between the child or young adult and their parents or siblings,
There is no way to say something like that without alienating your brother! The best you can hope for is to let your brother see the difference between what they have said and what is the truth, and hope he "gets it." For example, if they told you they wrecked the car when someone pulled out in front of them, but told your brother they were parked and someone hit the car, you could get your brother alone and say something non-inflammatory like "I'm a little confused - did the car get wrecked by someone pulling out in front of them, or someone backing into them?" Don't try to turn him against them, because all that ever does is make your loved ones angry at you!
You can't. Eventually they'll catch themselves out and then you have to be there for him.
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Pathological lying is difficult to treat because the person usually does not care to change. One good way to handle them is to confront them with the truth in a calm and non-argumentative manner. Simply state the actual truth. You should stay away from "he said/she said" kind of statements, because those are opinions instead of truth. If the liar says he was in bed at 11pm, you can say "I saw you in the kitchen at 11pm drinking milk out of the carton."
Identifying a Pathological Liar . Pathological liars, or "mythomaniacs," may be suffering from histrionic personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder. The following comments basically reflect a pathological liar who has the characteristics of histrionic personality disorder.. Some characteristics:. 1. Exaggerates things that are ridiculous.. 2. One-upping. Whatever you do, this person can do it better. You will never top them in their own mind, because they have a concerted need to be better than everyone else. This also applies to being right. If you try to confront an individual like this, no matter how lovingly and well-intentioned you might be - this will probably not be effective. It's threatening their fantasy of themselves, so they would rather argue with you and bring out the sharp knives than admit that there's anything wrong with them.. 3. They "construct" a reality around themselves. They don't value the truth, especially if they don't see it as hurting anyone. If you call them on a lie and they are backed into a corner, they will act very defensively and say ugly things (most likely but depends on personality), but they may eventually start to act like, "Well, what's the difference? You're making a big deal out of nothing!" (again, to refocus the conversation to your wrongdoing instead of theirs).. 4. Because these people don't value honesty, a lot of times they will not value loyalty. So watch what you tell them. They will not only tell others, but they will embellish to make you look worse. Their loyalty is fleeting, and because they are insecure people, they will find solace in confiding to whomever is in their favor at the moment.. 5. They may be somewhat of a hypochondriac. This can come in especially useful when caught in a lie, for example, they can claim that they have been sick, or that there's some mysteriously "illness" that has them all stressed out. It's another excuse tool for their behavior.. 6. Obviously, they will contradict what they say. This will become very clear over time. They usually aren't smart enough to keep track of so many lies (who would be?).. Here are some ways to tell someone is a pathological liar contributed by another WikiAnswers Contributor:. They lie about even the smallest things. For example, saying "I brushed my teeth today," when they didn't. . They add exaggerations to every sentence. . They change their story all the time. . They act very defensively when you question their statements. . They believe what they say is true, when everyone else knows it isn't. . Here's an alternate "checklist":. Lies when it is very easy to tell the truth. . Lies to get sympathy, to look beter, to save their butt, etc. . Fools people at first but once they get to know him, no one believes anything they ever say. . May have a personality disorder. . Extremely manipulative. . Has been caught in lies repeatedly. . Never fesses up to the lies. . Is a legend in their own mind. . Here are more opinions and other input from WikiAnswers Contributors:. I have found a few differences in pathological liar and a "slime ball" liar. Pathological liars cannot tell that they are lying they actually believe the lie as soon as it comes out of their mouth. They lie about unimportant things that don't really matter to anyone. This can be caused by mental defect but isn't always. Slime-ball liars lie about things that make them look better or embellish to get attention. They also lie to keep their butts out of trouble and to get what they want. . Here are things to ask yourself: How could this many things happen to one person? Would believe these stories if someone else told you? Think back to the beginning: you had red flags and alarms going off in you head. Learn to trust your instincts. . It is very hard to tell when one is a pathological liar. Some people just are liars and lie to lie because they can and they don't care about getting caught and aware that you know they have lied. These people care not about lying, it's no big deal. It's like "ok, so what? I lied". The pathological liar on the other hand, IS aware that they are lying BUT will go to extremes to make you believe that they are truthful. They appear to believe their own lies BUT in truth, they know their lies are just that, lies. But because their efforts are constantly backing up their lies, it appears to us that they actually believe their lies, when we eventually do find out about them and then we tend to feel sorry for these people. Then they have an excuse, "I am sick, I don't know why I lie, I believed what I was saying etc." The only truth was the fact that they don't know why they lie. Other than that it's crap. It is true that most of them have an extremely low sense of self worth and are continuously trying to make themselves feel better about THEMSELVES and this is one reason they lie. It is about them but the lies are not always set up with the purpose to hurt some one else; it's that these people feel so low about themselves they need to create ANYTHING different from the ugly reality they feel about themselves so they lie about even the most tiniest little thing. The people closest to them get sucked into these lies which sometimes start as something very trivial and then turn into something that can turn everyone involved worlds upside down and inside out. . Unmasking the pathological liar is an easier task when the pathological liar is no more than a casual acquaintence to the "un-masker." Close relationships provide camouflage for the pathological liar, and intimacy provides a heavily-fortressed breeding ground. . Other indicators: 1) Rage attacks after they realize you're questioning their lies. 2) Distraction techniques, e.g. hanging up the phone when you catch them in lie, playing word games, or even just running out of the room. After using the distraction technique, or rage attack, or sometimes both, they will pretend that nothing ever happened. They re-write history, so it never did happen in their minds. Normal people do it too, but these people take it to the extreme. . From "Go Ask Alice": Lies are unplanned and impulsive. Behavior is repeated over a long period of time. Lies don't seem to exist for any external reason. Behavior may not always be a conscious act. Lies are admitted, changed, and/or adapted if a false story is challenged. . From Andrea Broadbent "The Truth about Truman": To begin, the definition of pathological actually means abnormal or grossly atypical. Therefore, a pathological liar prevaricates more frequently than the average person or tells more abnormal lies. In most cases, pathological liars tell lies that are "unplanned and impulsive" (Hausman). These lies are usually very emotional stories that tend to serve no purpose except to impress people (Ford 133). As of now, psychiatrists are unsure whether or not pathological liars are fully capable of realizing if and when they are lying, so detecting whether or not a person is a pathological liar is a very difficult task (Hausman). By looking at the list of conditions commonly connected with people considered to be pathological liars, psychiatrists are better able to determine whether or not a person might actually have the disorder. Some main qualities linked with pathological liars include dysfunctional family origin, family lying patterns, anomalies of sexual life, frequent substance abuse, and a great capacity for language. . From Raymond Lloyd Richmond, Ph.D. "Psychological Honesty": Even a pathological liar carries deep in his heart a desire for goodness and honesty and yet, because of painful emotional wounds, believes that the world never has, and never will, recognize his pain. And so, to hide that pain from himself, he uses all the lies he can concoct to hurl at the world as he runs in fear from his own goodness.
That is a question which has been kicked around for eons. If a person is truly pathological they are unable to tell the difference between lies and truth. Most liars choose lies simply because they are easier than the truth. Changing a liar into a truthful person is impossible until you can make them understand that lying is more work, less profitable, and usually useless from the onset. Regrettably, I've yet to find a liar that could be reformed. One either is, or is not a truthful person. If one is, by habit a liar, it is unlikely they will ever change. Ditto for the truthful person. They don't see the up side of lying and never developed the technique of lying, so they aren't very good at it. . I think there are times when lying is less work, more profitable and useful . " The check is in the mail. Those pants don't make you look fat. It's company policy. That line of dresses runs small and so you need to go one size up.
Answer . You really can't. There can be no trust in a relationship with a pathological liar and trust is an absolute foundation of any long-term relationship.
Because they have lied so much that they have lost all conscientious pangs and are callus to doing wrong of this sort. So that above answer was completely conceited and wrong. I am a pathological liar. Therefore I am the best person to tell you about pathological liars. Right, pathological liars lie because they find it too uncomfortable to tell the truth, much like how an honest person finds it hard to lie. However, we lie about the most mundane thing sometimes. I even make up stories to win an argument. Also, most people will tell you that we lose track of our lies. For me that is not true, I have an excellent memory capacity and therefore can remember nearly every important lie I've told. Furthermore we have not lost all conscientous pangs and we are usually not callus. This person was obviously thinking of a sociopath which is completely different to a pathological liar. We don't lie to advance our own goals unlike sociopaths, we lie because it feels comfortable for us. An example was today in my class. I was asked if it was my birthday due to a prior conversation with a friend. I just said yes out of instinct (even though it wasn't). Now there is now harm done in that lie. I got sung happy birthday and nothing bad happened. We have spent so much lieing that it is second nature to us. I hope I have helped you understand.
\nYou don't. If possible, get them out of your life. Trying to reason with an emotionally ill person (and pathological lying is an emotional disorder) is like trying to make grass grow by feeding the cat. There is no common ground.
to be honest i dont think you can but....by not asking them anything about anything and doing everything yourself, gives no room for them to lie about any thing u ask them to say or do. is this really a way to live though? my sis is and an x friend, got them out of my life, if they wanna take themselves down, i refuse to lt them take me with them, they cant change
Seek counseling for the person you believe to be a pathological liar. You may not be equipped to make the diagnosis that someone is a pathological liar. Plus, if you are correct in this diagnosis, treatment of such a condition requires professional assistance. If you are unable to afford professional therapy, call a social worker and discuss what social programs are available in your area as nearly all states have social programs available to help with the mental health of their citizens.
Guilt and repercussions of what they have done! That is what makes someone a pathalogical liar.. People do not like hearing the truth, they do not like telling the truth when they do something wrong especially if it brings heartache or harm to another person.. When confronted with questions on why they did it or what made them do it. the confrontation alone forces them into a corner.. Truth and honesty does not seem to play a big part in society today in comparison to the past.. I have watched a young woman starve herself to feed a newborn child simply because the father abandoned her during the pregnancy leaving her with a bag full of his lies. When he was approached and asked to help he claimed shock and disbelief. The same young woman worked a full time job and raised the child on her own even though she was going hungry. Society showed her no compasion or sympathy, only the expectation that she was forced to care for a child noone else seemed to want or care about. My family welcomed the young woman into our fold and have watched her grow and heal while raising her child. They now have happiness, some out there are not so lucky. I would dearly like the world to change and bring back the compassion, and put the heart into caring about other people regardless of the situation. Young men need to be forced to accept responsibility it is not something that should be pushed aside. . Its the abandoned children that will surprise the world someday. Look out all you fathers who abandon your children, leave broken hearts and broken lives behind you. It is you who will be refused compassion, sympathy, care and a heart specifically at the moment when you need it the most.
Keep a private journal with date & time and what they say.. But if they are pathological they won't believe you - you will have to get away from them ASAP - there is no cure.
It depends, you have to know the person really good or you either just know the truth. lol :) I laugh when I lie. I try not to but its hard... lol
Take everything that they say with a grain of salt.(Don't believe anything they say) To get them help, you can call your local mental health clinic and they should be able to evaluate them and get them treated. The question is: What can you do for the VICTIMS of pathological liars? since there is NOTHING you can do for the pathological liar. In fact, the more you try to help them, the more they use THAT information to become better liars. PLEASE keep an eye on them and who they're conning. They can be VERY destructive. They can ruin peoples' lives, and if allowed to impregnate someone, or become impregnated BY someone, may VERY WELL produce another offspring who will leave more distruction in their path for the next generation and the next generation ad infinitium.............Do not allow them to reproduce at all costs.
While virtually everyone may tell a lie at times, for various practical reasons, a pathological liar is a mentally ill person who feels compelled to lie even when the lies do not serve any useful purpose. Such people also may base their entire strategy of survival upon an endless series of lies. Pathological liars typically appear to be very sincere when they are lying, and may be very deceptive. They feel no embarrassment about what they do.
The truth is in the details . When he (or she) includes numerous unrelated, small details that don't add any extra "luster" or "sparkle" to the story you're being told (remember, his story is being told to get something from you), chances are there's a shred of truth in them [in that portion of the story at least]. From there, the truth gets fuzzy as small details are abandoned to make room for the real drama; so masterfully told, as he sets the trap and you fall for it, taking the bait - hook, line and sinker.
Yes they do. When they feel cornered in they lie they feel the urge to wanna strike out to defend they lie to cover up the truth. WHy? Is still unknown. I just know they are very agressive.
You talk to them like they are normal, just don't believe anything they tell you.
Yes. Due to the malformation of the brain & brain chemistry in pathological people - they believe their own lies, even if it changes 5 minutes later.
Sounds a little odd, but works. 1. Look down at your nose for 3 complete seconds. 2. Stare at your wall for 30 minutes. Make sure that is the only think your focusing on and your not thinking about anything else. This helps relax you and remove all anger out of your body system. 3. Do this at least twice a day. When you wake up and before going to sleep. 4. Every time your about to say a lie, bite your tongue, and stop yourself. 5. If none of this works I suggest talking to a physiologist. The first 2 steps will gradually work. You have to give time and patience. Over time you will see improvement in your pathological lies.
Technically a pathological liar is a liar period. You can tell if your husband is a liar by how he communicates - does he try and play the victim all the time? Is he evasive when answering your questions? Does he lay the blame on your to try and wiggle out of situations?